Part 1: Is it possible to be in love with more than one person?

“I know why you’re here, Neo. I know what you’ve been doing. I know why you hardly sleep, and why night after night you sit at your computer. You’re looking for him. I know, because I was once looking for the same thing. And when he found me, he told me I wasn’t really looking for him, I was looking for an answer. It’s the question that drives us, Neo. It’s the question that brought you here. You know the question, just as I did…” (Trinity, talking to Neo in The Matrix; Source)

You clicked on this article not because you don’t know the answer but because you don’t dare to believe it. Everything inside you is against the idea: the way you were raised, your religion, your faith, society’s expectation, and your own fears as well. You were raised with only one possible answer to the question.

You have been conditioned ever since you were a child, that one day the one and only love of your life will appear and make all your dreams (and maybe the dreams of your parents and grandparents) come true!

The princess kisses a frog - we can't love more than one person because of our beliefs?

Snow White was found by her true love, Aladdin fell in love with Jasmine at first sight, and the knight in shining armour killed the fire-breathing dragon and saved the princess from the castle – and all of them lived happily ever after!

You might not have yet found your true love, or he or she might be already sitting in the room next to you while you’re reading these lines. But if you’re reading these lines, maybe you’re having some doubts.

Maybe you have already experienced that yes, it is possible to be in love with more than one person. Maybe – without even knowing it! – you’re actually in love with more than one right now.

Mother and two children - an example of loving multiple people at once

You have two children – which one is closer to your heart and which one is less important?

You have two kittens – which one is your favourite and which one is the one that you just keep until you’re bored of her and you’re ready to put her down once you’ve grown tired of her?

You have two childhood friends both of whose friendship you cherish – which one would you choose to save with a life-saving serum that both would need to survive?

You love them both!

But why must you choose?

Why can’t you have two children equally close to your heart?

Or two kittens you equally favour?

Or two childhood friends whose friendships you equally cherish?

Or two people you’re in love equally?

The fact that we are capable to love more than one must be clear from these examples. Then, why is the world so up in arms against this idea? The way you were raised, your religion, your faith, society’s expectation, and your own fears as well – they are all against it.

Love more than one person - blue pill and red pill in Morpheus's hand

If you’d like, Neo, I’ll be your guide out of the matrix. I won’t be angry if you choose to stay with your beliefs, close this page, and pick up a loudspeaker to shout to the world how big a lie all of this is, how dangerous these ideas are, how ungodly and how damaging even such thoughts can be, and you will never ever accept this!

It’s okay. We are fine. But if you’d like to see the other reality, now is the time to see it.

“This is your chance. After this, there is no turning back…..You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up and belive…whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill… stay in wonderland…and I show you just how deep the rabbit hole goes.”

I take the blue pill I take the red pill

Part 1: Is it possible to be in love with more than one person?

by Laszlo Agoston time to read: 3 min
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